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10 kinky tips to improve your sex life.

Written by Miss Zoe

Sex is like a bottomless oil well. The further you go, the more you can get. So often, lovers get stuck in a rut with their sex life. There are many reasons why, and it’s almost inevitable. But improving your sex life is a very important part of maintaining a relationship. If you can offer your lover something wonderful to look forward to with sex, then your lover is going to be more apt to want to have sex, and offer you something wonderful in return. There is no limit to the way you express your sexuality within a relationship, only the limits you place on yourself.

One of the best ways to improve your sex life is by being more kinky. Tapping into that deep well of sexuality that both you and your lover are sitting on, and pulling out new and exciting ways of exploring human sexuality and each other.

Here are 10 kinky tips to improve your sex life with your lover.

1. Share sexual fantasies together. Chances are your lover is holding back one or two very spicy and very kinky sexual fantasies. Perhaps something they think about that is taboo, or not necessarily normal in their minds. But it really turns them on. It might even be about having sex with someone else. So long as it is just a fantasy, no one will get hurt. If you have the courage to speak up about it, it will stimulate you and the fact that you are sharing it with your lover. You don’t have to actually do it, but just talking about it will turn you on, and being so open and vulnerable to your lover, will turn them on. Then you can have the normal sex that you usually do, but can think or even speak about the fantasy during love making. This is one of the quickest ways to get yourself, or your lover, in the mood. I would also advise that a glass or two of red wine be used to allow your mind to relax and open up to your inner most fantasies.

2. Look at porn together. Why not? Your lover does. I have never known a man who didn’t look at porn. Men have insatiable appetites for lovers. They are attracted to all kinds of women, for all kinds of reasons, and that is just they way they are wired. Why not agree to look at porn with your lover. Talk about how sexy a person is and why. Or watch porn movies together. A good way to introduce this technique is by leaving a porno movie out and making sure your lover finds it. You might even agree to rent your lover 3 porno movies of any kind he wants, as a gift. And you might suggest him to choose the kinkiest ones he can find. But be careful, if you do this with a man, he may start to follow you around more than you may want.

3. Read other peoples sex stories. Reading other peoples kinky sex stories is a great way to get excited with your lover and get into the mood. Perhaps there is a sex fantasy out there, that someone has made into a sex story and it’s something you had not thought of. And you may be surprised at how much it turns you on. It can give you new ideas to use in your love making, of just get your engines going. Since it’s fiction, it’s just fantasy and can’t hurt you. You might also consider writing your own kinky sex story with your lover. I bet you will learn something more about them.

4. Role Play. Role play means to act out, to become someone other than your self and play the part. It is usually not scripted, but rather an improvisational play. Pick a role and act it out. There are thousands of different role play ideas to choose from, but chances are, your lover has one in mind that they have been dying to role play, but have been to shy to mention. Here are just a few role play ideas:

Nurse or doctor

Aunt or uncle

Caught cross dressing

Role reversal

He becomes you, and you become him

Stranger in a bar

Secretary or boss

The baby or infant

A prostitute or strip tease artist

Lesbian fantasy

Police person or jailer

Super heroes

President or CEO

Fireman

5. Sex Toys. Introducing sex toys into your sex life may be a scary idea at first for the male. He may worry that one of them might please the female more than he can, but if he can get past this, he will discover that he has nothing to fear. When you were a kid, it was nice to play with your toys alone, but it was so much better playing with someone else. And of course there are all kinds of sex toys to use. The anal beads are fun for everyone involved and I highly recommend them. Hand cuffs are great as well but you can also use a tie or even pants to tie your lover up. There’s the butt plug, the dildo, the strap on dildo, the double headed dildo (teach him to suck too), the cock ring, penis pump, chastity belt, clitoris vibrator, the list is endless. I wouldn’t get too dependent on your sex toys. They are fun, but should be used as a sexual enhancer, and not a sexual partner. And make sure you clean them on a regular basis.

6. Shop for sexy clothes. Tell your lover you are going to spend $100 on them then next holiday that rolls around. Tell them they can shop online or in a store but they must pick out $100 worth of lingerie or sexy clothes. You could make a game out of it. Or, allow your lover to dress you up anyway they want for a night. There is not a man out there who has not thought about dressing as a woman at least once. Woman get to dress as men in the world these days. It’s taboo for a man to dress as a women, which is exactly why he wants to try it. Go to Victoria’s secret and just window shop with your lover is you don’t want to spend money on sweet nothings. Ask your lover to find pictures of sexy lingerie on the internet and email them to you. Clean out a closet in your house and designate it the “Naughty closet”. Next time you are at a friends house, lock yourself in their bedroom and try on some of their sexy clothes for your lover. Sexy clothes are a very important part of improving your sex life.

7. Go to strip shows together. Most women do not want their man going to strip clubs. ALONE! But most women are curious to see what goes on there. It’s a very erotic experience for a man to take his lover to a strip club and sit together and watch the show. It will undoubtedly turn your man on quick. Ladies, take your lover to a male strip club. He is not going to like the idea at first, but explain how many horny women are going to be there and that most of the dancers are gay anyway. You may be surprised at how excited the both of you get at a male strip club. This is a fantastic way to go out on the town and get into the mood.

8. Introduce a third person into your sex life. Most people do not have the courage or desire to do this. However it can be done safely if controlled and the rules are clear. For example, I know a man who was absolutely obsessed with seeing his wife with another woman. He is lucky to have such a wonderful lover and she agreed for his birthday to hire a professional escort and make out with her while he watched. Once they did, this man’s obsession decreased. I knew another couple that would find a shemale or transsexual from time to time and on special occasions would add them to their love making. They told me it was the most erotic thing they have ever done and they fantasize about it all the time. Some men enjoy watching another man please their lovers. Allowing this go happen in a controlled fashion may be a wonderful surprise for all involved. Some men are even curious to be with another man and have you watch or participate. And of course there are couples who swing and wife swap and have no problems with it at all. If you should go down this road, be very careful to make up rules or even a contract first. But even if you never actually get into a love triangle, just talking it over with your lover will be a huge turn on.

9. Have sex in strange locations. Once I was in New Orleans and I saw a couple having sex on top of a bus. I also witnessed a couple having sex in a dark alley and as I walked by, they revealed themselves to me. Once I had sex in an empty school bus. Another time while on the road, I went into a cheap hotel, and found an unlocked room and had sex in there. My partner loved it because you never knew when the cleaning lady would come in. Some people like sex in airplanes, others while on a road trip. Having sex outside can be lots of fun and will help you get in touch with your inner animal. Having sex in a public bathroom can be scary but exciting. Or having sex in someone else’s home, very quickly, can be a thrill. You might even want to test drive an RV, and have a quick romp in the back. Doesn’t matter where, just as long as it breaks the cycle of where you usually do it.

10. Exercise naked together. Sex is an active sport. It requires physical strength and although you don’t have to be a super hero to do it well, you should be in good enough physical condition to get the job done right. I often think of exercise, as practice for sex. It helps my body look good for my partner, and it helps me to have endurance and stamina. But it’s not always fun to work out. Try getting naked with your lover, and exercising together at home. Help each other do push ups and be your lovers own personal trainer. You don’t have to be entirely naked, perhaps you could wear something tiny. Dress your lover up in something you like, and then exercise with them. Help them with stretching, sit ups, yoga, whatever. You can even make it a game of dominance. Or you can give them sexual favors as incentives. If you do 10 more push ups, I’ll give you oral pleasure for 10 minuets. You get the idea.

A survey found that 68% of all people who were having regular sex, wished they were having better sex. Too often we get stuck in a rut with sex, treating it as just another thing to check of on our “list of things to do today”. Or perhaps we are scared to push the boundary of what is already working. Sex can be one of the most wonderful rewards about being in a relationship. Although sex is not the most important aspect of a relationship, we all know that if we are having amazing sex, then there is less stress, less fear and anxiety in that relationship. Not to mention it improves out own self esteem and gives us something to get excited about. Life is short, too short to not speak up about what might turn you on. If your lover really loves you, they will do what they can to improve one of the most important and rewarding aspects of a relationship. Sex.

10 Kinky Tips To Improve Your Sex Life was written by Miss Zoe for kinkysexstories.org